When a woman overthinks

Being a woman who overthinks everything is no cake walk.To all the women who are overthinkers, I want to tell you that you aren’t alone who’s suffering throughout and yes, there are people who are going to understand you and the way you feel.

WHY DO WOMEN TEND TO OVERTHINK MORE?

Lead author Daniel Amen, a psychiatrist and founder of Amen Clinics in California, said: “This is a very important study to help understand gender-based brain differences. Women have significantly higher rates of Alzheimer’s disease, depression — which itself is a risk factor for Alzheimer’s — and anxiety disorders. And men have higher rates of ADHD, conduct-related problems and incarceration."

WHAT AN OVERTHINKING PERSON THINK OF?

Their mind is driven towards all those disturbing and negative sights of life.  They cannot stand ignorance from the ones they love. They have this  heavy feeling of being isolated that is overanalyzed and eventually they jump into a conclusion of, since I cannot deal this issue I don’t want to live such life. Many people  have had suicidal attempts due to such overthinking problems. People who overthink, has a problem of expressing what they actually  feel like. Most of them don’t even bother to tell someone else about the feeling, because of a fear of getting judged or maybe a fear of misinterpreting. Overthinkers have and OCD, to be organized.They are obsessed with clarity in everything.  They are absolutely sensitive. Whenever they’re sorry they apologize with honesty. They are true towards the way they feel.

They are very emotional and they love spontaneity.  They are so much obsessed about the failure and way too worried about future. They are  likely to be very moody and also don’t trust  their own judgements. They have a bubbles of expectation and that's why they get hurt easily.

Since we are talking about overthinking in relationships particularly, An overthinking girlfriend is true to her emotions. She knows every little details of yours. She may not be giving you good vibes always because she is struggling with her negativity. She is a  kind of girl who’ll admire you for whatever you are. If her feelings are no more then she will let you know. She won’t leave easily if she’s in love you.

To the ones who overthink,

Whenever your partner text you something, you go and look up to tiny little detail and meaning of a single line. But the Reality is they have no idea that you are going to assume a lot of meanings out of it.  Therefore, Stop doing it just stop your brain from inclining you towards “what does he mean?” or “ how could he say that?”.  If you are confused, go and ask them gently about it or else you’ll end up having thoughts like “oh, so he does not even care” or “I am the only one who cares” and hurting yourself emotionally. And when they don’t respond you, my god it just drives you nuts. You can’t stand ignorance not even 0.00001% . It’s not your ego but whenever your partner is busy doing things, you start going on the zone where you feel “okay, now I am not important enough?” If you see couple goals on social media instantly, I think that is the worst case scenario. Volcanic eruption of feelings with aggressions and complains which concludes with your partner getting pissed off claiming you don’t understand or take things easily. Reality is, they don’t know whatever you are thinking of the situation, they’ll come back you just let them go. It feels very horrible at instant I know but just don’t think about it. Divert your mind whenever you feel ignored. For example: writing whatever you feel like or whatever you have been thinking of or maybe playing a song you love and dancing on it.

It’s interesting, but true that you always like person who’ll take a charge and again this doesn’t mean you like dominant partner. It means, you wait for their action, you want them to take initiative. You’re already very tired of overanalyzing and overthinking situations that you want them to take a move plan a beautiful date without letting you know. But reality is they don’t know that this will make you feel better. Therefore it’s not their fault at all, accept it. To make it better either you tell them plan a date or else you do it your style. You take action plan it, make it, more beautiful than you think it could be. Trust me on this, results are going to be productively satisfying. Therefore: UNDERSTAND THE FACT THAT YOUR PARTNER  DOES NOT KNOW WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING OF

World is not revolving around you two. Whenever your dates get cancelled, call up some friends and talk about something else, watch a nice unromantic movie, maybe women centric movies, or else grab some ice cream and watch "friends". What I am saying to all of you analysis queens is, try to know yourself better.  What makes you feel confident, what makes you happy. For once imagine a world that does not have an existence of your partner and what would you do at the times that you invest for them. You are allowed to overthink if you are thinking of yourself. Therefore: TRY TO LET GO THINGS AND DIVERT YOUR MIND

 

You have to accept that your anxiety towards your relationship is not necessary to be solved by your partner, First you decide whether it’s okay to open up about it or not . It’s not even necessary for them to react the way you want even if you open up about the thoughts you have while you get anxious. I am not telling you they’ve nothing to do with this so let him stay away. NO! What I am telling you is, there’s no guarantee that all of the people who love you support you will understand. And that my friend is completely OKAY! Don’t judge them just because they don’t know what it feels like.  They love you they truly do, its just that they aren’t on same stage same phase that you are going through. Having said that, you can console with the person who can understand whenever you talk about it and also make you feel better. If not, you have to let your self esteem up and believe in yourself, WOMAN UP and find things that make you feel better. Make efforts to make your mind and soul feel confident about yourself. Self love heals everything. If you feel like you are going out of track get proper medications without being ashamed. And if you haven’t found someone who can understand or at least know that you have  issues then DO NOT SETTLE FOR IT. This will not make you a hoe or a slut, this will make you a confident woman who knows what she wants. Please believe in yourself and believe your relationship is part of your world, but you my friend are a whole world of yours. Don’t let things that are replaceable ruin an irreplaceable version of yours. You are precious.

 

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